Well Being

Be a Relationship Leader

Good relationships require leadership. Many of us have a few dissatisfying relationships, but it doesn’t occur to us to guide the relationship to a healthier place. We feel we are stuck with how the other person is. More likely, we haven’t thought through what we really want from our relationships.…
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A Better Relationship with Yourself

Does it seem strange to spend more time on developing a relationship with yourself? You might wonder what that would even look like. But it’s the most vital relationship you have, essential for real connection with other people. By getting to know yourself and cherishing what you find there, you…
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Living with Illness

Our main metaphor for dealing with illness is one of battle. But rather than seeing yourself as a warrior, a better image might be that of a farmer. Living well with serious illness is like tending a garden in which you’re planting seeds to feed your soul. You may not…
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Learning to Speak Your Mind

If you grew up around insensitive or overbearing people, you probably learned to keep your feelings to yourself. Being around emotionally insensitive people teaches you to bite your tongue and be passive, or else risk their making you feel worse. This can interfere with your ability to be forthright and…
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Spiritual Lessons from Technology

I received unexpected spiritual guidance the other day when I switched my car’s clock back to daylight savings time. After changing the setting, the dashboard screen asked me if I wanted to save the change. It was the vehicular version of asking, Are you sure? Instead of appreciating my car’s…
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Update Your Self-Concept

It’s a good idea to update our self-concept the way we update our clothes and electronic devices. Many of us still make do with self-concepts based on what people thought of us in the 3rd grade or the role we played in our childhood family. Our self-concept is what we…
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A Power Struggle: Sexual Harassment

There are two types of sexual harassment. People who have experienced the first type may not realize the huge psychological impact of the second type. Perpetrators of the first type of sexual harassment are seen as pests, teases, or irritants. They don’t have power over you, and you can easily…
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