Well Being

Living with Illness

Our main metaphor for dealing with illness is one of battle. But rather than seeing yourself as a warrior, a better image might be that of a farmer. Living well with serious illness is like tending a garden in which you’re planting seeds to feed your soul. You may not…
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Learning to Speak Your Mind

If you grew up around insensitive or overbearing people, you probably learned to keep your feelings to yourself. Being around emotionally insensitive people teaches you to bite your tongue and be passive, or else risk their making you feel worse. This can interfere with your ability to be forthright and…
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Spiritual Lessons from Technology

I received unexpected spiritual guidance the other day when I switched my car’s clock back to daylight savings time. After changing the setting, the dashboard screen asked me if I wanted to save the change. It was the vehicular version of asking, Are you sure? Instead of appreciating my car’s…
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Update Your Self-Concept

It’s a good idea to update our self-concept the way we update our clothes and electronic devices. Many of us still make do with self-concepts based on what people thought of us in the 3rd grade or the role we played in our childhood family. Our self-concept is what we…
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A Power Struggle: Sexual Harrassment

There are two types of sexual harassment. People who have experienced the first type may not realize the huge psychological impact of the second type. Perpetrators of the first type of sexual harassment are seen as pests, teases, or irritants. They don’t have power over you, and you can easily…
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The Truth about Football

A friend and I were marveling at the people who love to watch football from the very beginning of the season. We agreed that our interest in football was not nearly so constant and was directly proportional to what was at stake. For us, the playoffs and Superbowl could be…
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Holiday Mindfulness

What do the holidays mean to you? Are they about cooking up a storm, blowing the budget, worrying about everybody’s feelings, and losing sleep over what you’ve still got to get done? For those of us who feel compelled to please others, the holidays can be not only physically but…
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