Working Through a Bad Mood

People pay me to get them out of a bad mood. After twenty years of doing just that, here’s my most common advice: 1) Don’t fight it. Fighting a bad mood is like panicking in quicksand—it can make things worse. If you can give yourself the…
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Back-Pocket Marriage Counselor

As we say goodbye to February, the month of love, I thought I would condense for you the less-obvious marital problems (with solutions!) I encounter in my practice. • Being Too Nice. Wha..?? That’s right. The little white lies couples use to keep the…
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Eliminating Rape

The Bill Cosby and UVA rape allegations are causing a stir especially here in Virginia. Rape not only decimates a woman’s confidence, self-esteem and the underpinnings of her emotional well being, but it sidelines a mother, wife, co-worker which negatively reverberates throughout our entire…
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A Twist on Relationship Violence

How many people have been affected by Ebola in the US this year? Three How many men have been physically abused by a woman this year? 3.2 million Recently a dinner conversation with physician friends strayed to Ebola. An ER physician and chairman who…
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Analyzing Robin's Suicide

  Everyone is asking me about it. One person offered to pay me for it. I’ve never seen this much interest in any one topic. Not 9-11. Not even the election of the first African American president of the U.S. So, here it is:…
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Don't Be a StepMonster

Summer.  No school, less work, more family time.  In today’s world that often means dealing with ex’s and step’s and all that blended families have to offer.  Step-parents frequently complain of difficulty connecting with their new charges.  Rightfully so.  Giving birth to and caring…
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Disabling the Enablers

Enablers aren’t just for alcoholics and drug addicts anymore. Enablers are people who find ways for those with any bad habit to avoid the negative consequences of their actions. So for instance, someone who has difficulty getting out of bed may have a coworker…
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