Sometimes things happen in life that make you feel like you’ve been knocked over the head by a two-by-four. First, there are the Big Things, like losing a job or losing someone dear to you. Then there are the times when your life is moving merrily along, and all of a sudden—bam—something shifts and you find yourself on a different path.
It happens to everyone sooner or later. The quintessential mid-life crisis. I’m not sure I’ve had my mid-life crisis yet, though I think I’ve passed the halfway mark of this lifetime. But I do find myself wondering—a lot—if I am on the right path.
In my yoga class, my teacher, Emily Wells, says we are all exactly where we are supposed to be. I feel comforted by that thought, but the control freak in me wonders if it’s true.
I know you find it hard to believe, but I have a tendency to think I’m in control of everything. Isn’t it pretty to think so?
Then of course that two-by-four comes along and reminds me that no, I’m not in charge. So what can a control freak like me do?
Inhale. Exhale. Hit the pause button. See where this new path is going and let it happen. Soon I’ll find out that this new path is the one I was meant to take all along.
You’ve heard the old adage that everything happens for a reason? I believe it. I also believe that everything that happens is a stepping stone to the next place we need to be.
So that two-by-four? It’s part of the plan, too. The key is to accept the things you cannot change and then rearrange your thoughts as best you can to embrace this new world you find yourself in.
That’s the beauty of life. Every day you wake up not knowing what the day will bring. Sometimes good things happen and sometimes they don’t. But everything that happens presents you with an opportunity to learn and grow.
It may be that we don’t know where the path is taking us, and we just have to trust in our higher power to carry us through to where we are supposed to go. The trick is to be open and positive about change instead of complaining and feeling like the whole world is against us.
It’s like that little switch I wrote about last month. While we may not have the power to control everything that happens to us, how we react to life’s curveballs and two-by-fours is definitely a choice we make.
I don’t know about you, but to me venturing down a new path is exciting. Think of all the possibilities. I love the idea that every day is an opportunity to improve ourselves and to make this world a better place.
It all starts with you.