I think two of the hardest words for women to say are “yes” and “no.” Many times we say “yes” when we want to say “no” and we say “no” when we really want to say “yes.”
I’m not quite sure where we learned this habit, but I have seen it in my mother, myself, and even my 20-something year old daughters. Many times when I talk with women, they say they struggle with this because they don’t want to let people down or they don’t want to hurt others’ feelings. But what about our own feelings?
How long has it been since you’ve even said yes to yourself? When you know there’s something you want to do or somewhere you want to go? I tell women, “Let your yes be yes and your no be no.” In other words, when you say these words feel confident.
Melody Beattie in The Language of Letting Go says, “When opportunities come our way—whether for personal, spiritual or business growth—don’t always be so cautious and shy.... A well-timed yes is as important in manifesting our power as learning to say no. It’s a sign of an open heart.”
Next time an idea comes to you or someone suggests something different or a new opportunity presents itself, don’t automatically talk yourself out of it. Listen to the suggestion first, weigh the idea, think about it, and then make a decision before you say no.
Change is sometimes scary. Many times we like to stay in the safe, familiar place we’re used to. But there comes a time when we have to learn to “Say yes to life.”
Open yourself up, Second Acters, and be willing to try. Learn to say yes and mean it from your heart.
Benita's passion is helping women in The Second Act live their best lives by giving them resources to look their best and make life changes to achieve their personal and professional goals. She connects them to a community of successful women. Her passion is helping women to consciously design their second act. She is currently working on her TV show “The Second Act with Benita Adams” which celebrates women in their midlife journey. Benita is also a TV personality, communications coach, and professional speaker. Her upcoming book, “R.E.S.E.T. Your Life, A Woman’s Journey through The Second Act,” is scheduled to be released in 2013.Website: www.benitaadams.com