As far back as I can remember, I have been interested in successful people. I read biographies about successful people. I watched documentaries about them and now, I Google them, to learn about how they reached the top of their fields.
I have pushed my children to embrace their gifts, talents and potential to be the best they can be. I’ve read Malcolm Gladwell’s book Outliers. In it he looks at the factors that contribute to high levels of success.
Sometimes, as women in our 2nd Act, we think why try to change now? It’s too late for me. I’m too old. I say NOT SO. It’s never too late to become the person you were meant to be.
Recently, I read an article about Maria Shriver in Secrets of Successful Women – Six Life Lessons. Let’s look at them:
• Accept that letting go of other people’s expectations is a process. As women, many times we can be pleasers and let others identify us. Work on your own self-identity, but know it takes time.
• Know your life doesn’t have to be defined by the roles you play. We’re moms, wives, sisters, grandmothers, professionals, but these roles don’t have to define us. YOU figure out who you want to be. It’s up to you.
• Let yourself cry. Wow, do I know this one. It wasn’t until I was an adult and my dad died that I ever saw my mom cry. We were taught to hold in your emotions. But, I’ve had to learn that crying is good for you. It’s feels like a cleansing. So, go ahead and have a good cry.
• Be kind to yourself. We can be so hard on ourselves, focusing on our weaknesses instead of our strengths. Spend more time on what you CAN do instead of putting yourself down for what you CAN’T do.
• Know you’re not alone. Perhaps you’ve come from a family who didn’t “air their dirty laundry,” so you don’t ask for help when you need it. It really does take a village. Find yours.
• It’s never too late. Show up in your life as yourself. Keep growing and moving forward. No matter your age. Ask yourself, “Who am I going to be?”
Success is whatever you say it is for you. These are strategies, 2nd Acters, we can all live by.
Benita's passion is helping women in The Second Act live their best lives by giving them resources to look their best and make life changes to achieve their personal and professional goals. She connects them to a community of successful women. Her passion is helping women to consciously design their second act. She is currently working on her TV show “The Second Act with Benita Adams” which celebrates women in their midlife journey. Benita is also a TV personality, communications coach, and professional speaker. Her upcoming book, “R.E.S.E.T. Your Life, A Woman’s Journey through The Second Act,” is scheduled to be released in 2013.Website: www.benitaadams.com