Clear the Air

It’s deadline day, and my head is in the clouds. I’m a million miles away from where I should be, daydreaming about this and that until—eek—I look at the clock and come thudding back down to earth. Note to self: don’t wait until the last minute to write your monthly column.

But I always do. In fact, I work better under pressure. My tendencies to procrastinate evaporate when I know that I am running out of time. Somehow the dam opens, and the creative juices flow. I’ll admit I’m not one of those writers who agonizes over every word. I prefer the spontaneity of writing in the moment. It’s like talking. We rarely plan what we are going to say before we say it. We speak in the moment and say what’s in our hearts…or at least that’s what’s supposed to happen.

A while back I was conversing with a friend and an acquaintance. I said something that was true, but the acquaintance wondered if there was a hidden layer of sarcasm in what I said. My friend quickly commented, “Peggy never says anything she doesn’t mean.” It was a high compliment. I try hard to speak the truth whenever I open my mouth…or compose words in any medium.

When you think about it, there’s so much negativity floating around in the air. People get angry and say mean things that hurt others. Sometimes it’s impossible to forget when someone has said something unkind to you—and even harder to forgive. Often the person who has said the mean thing regrets it as soon as the words are out of his or her mouth. Then it’s too late, or is it?

Sometimes my emotions get the better of me, and when I say something hurtful, I take a deep breath, and as soon as I possibly can, I apologize to the person I was angry at. Apologies don’t always make everything hunky-dory, especially after an unpleasant disagreement, but they show you are sorry for what you did. And being sorry is not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign we are human.

If you’ve spoken to someone in anger lately, clear the air with a heartfelt apology. Both you and the person you spoke harshly to will begin to heal. As you enjoy our March issue—packed with information about being healthy and staying that way—take a moment to look in your heart and ask yourself if you need to forgive someone who has wronged you. Maybe that person has never apologized, and that’s OK. You need to find healing, and the longer you carry around the weight of being angry, the more harm it does to you.

No one is perfect, and that’s the lesson, I think. Let’s try to lift each other up, speak kind words to one another, be loving in our thoughts and deeds, and shine the goodness within us out into the world.

Hope you have a positively fulfilling month!

Love, Peggy

Peggy Sijswerda

Tidewater Women Magazine, Editor & Co-Publisher.

Website: www.peggysijswerda.com
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